We
can’t fight who we are because it’s who we’ve always been. Self-awareness
is the way to make changes. Changes blossom from self-awareness. The way to gain self-awareness is by remaining
present in the moment—try and try and try to be present in the moment. It’s all
we get. The moment. Now that moment's gone. Here’s the
next. And the next and the next and the next.
Should we look back? Ahead?
Yes,
as a means to keep us present. Touch the past, don't dwell. Touch the
future, don't dwell. Don't get hooked on thoughts. Touch the thoughts as they
pass thru the mind--because that's where they live—it’s the only place they
live. Come back to the present.
We
can learn more about ourselves if we’re present vs lost in thought—often lost
in our past: how depressing. Shoulda, coulda, woulda. Blame,
blame, blame. Obsessive thoughts?
Can you repeat that please?
Obsessive
thoughts?
What about obsessive thoughts?
They
lead to compulsive behaviors. Obsessive thoughts lead to repetitive, compulsive
behavior patterns. We’re locked in—we can’t get out. Sometimes we feel like
we’re suffocating. It’s all we know. It’s all we can remember ever doing, ever
being. In a dysfunctional way, it keeps us safe, and lets us feed into
our fantasies or our self- doubts.
We
can learn more about ourselves if we’re present vs. lost in thought—often lost
in our future: haha. That’s a good one. The future. We’re completely
invested in the future, but the future doesn’t exist. It hasn’t happened.
We’re completely invested in what doesn’t exist. Plan, plan, plan.
Prepare, prepare, prepare. Plan and prepare for what we really have no ultimate
control over. We obsess.
Shouldn’t
we be prepared for the future?
We
should have road maps, guide posts, pathways, signs that allow us to be open to
what is in this moment, and the next and the next and the next moment. Each
moment contains past, present and future—all in one. We have the present moment. It’s real
time. It doesn't live in our minds.
How do we get there?
Where?
To the present moment.
Engaging
our 5 senses will draw us in to the present and our breath—breathing—will keep
us there.
Can we stay there?
For
a moment. And if we try, we’ll go to the next and the next and the next.
The next what, the next where?
Moment.
