More often than not, “…we don’t get what we want and we get
what we don’t want…”(Pema Chodron). We have hopes and dreams and plans that
don’t go as we antcipated; that which we counted on to define our lives,
doesn’t happen, and something we never expected to happen defines our lives.
Can you offer some
examples?
Divorce. Illness.
Financial challenges.
Do you feel the
unexpected is always negative?
The unexpected isn’t always negative, and in fact it can be
positive. But feelings of anxiety and
depression associated with not getting what we want—what we hoped and dreamed
and planned for not coming into fruition—can be difficult to cope with.
Should we abandon
hopes, dreams and plans?
No, we should not abandon them. But we should embrace the notion that just
because we want something doesn’t mean we get it. Its here, in acknowledging this bit of
reality, we can begin to move and flow with what we have. Accept. Don’t expect
What do you feel
happens when we accept without expectation?
We become more grounded in what is real, than what are
thoughts—what we expected and didn’t get, or want but can’t have. We are more
equipped to face and accept what is present to us—our real time options—as opposed
to getting tripped up with not getting what we hoped and dreamed and planned; thoughts
which exist in our minds may not exist in our realities. Instead of being
anxious or depressed over what isn’t, we can open up to consider what is.
Great insights, Joanne!
ReplyDeleteThank you.
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